If you will recall my smoking career (read the about me page), I had two relapses.
I would like to share with you my experience in the hope that you would be able to fill the gap and succeed where I failed. Although I relapsed twice and smoked for a short period of time, it made me regret doing it.
Fortunately I was able to remove the wrong beliefs about smoking in my mind when I first quit so quitting in my 2 time relapses was easy. There are two things to watch out to avoid those relapses.
The Great “Just One Stick” Temptation
Curiosity can be so ridiculous at times.
It was this curiosity that made Adam and Eve sinned and it was also this curiosity that led us to smoke on the first place. After chaining ourselves in misery and addiction, after learning our mistakes , after quitting smoking successfully for a period of time; then once again out of curiosity we are tempted to try that “Just One Cigarette” thing.
Then “oops” there it goes “viola” we are hooked again. Try to avoid at all cost the temptation to try even just one cigarette even how stressful and excited you are in any events in your life.
In my first relapse, a friend offered me a cigarette (after quitting for 2 years), I thought this won’t be a problem as it’s only one cigarette. So I lit that stupid one cigarette, it made me dizzy, made my muscles collapse but the lies of good feelings brought forth by the effects of nicotine in the brain went to do its work very quickly. I won’t elaborate the details but soon enough I was lighting 10 cigs a day (stupid of me).
This went on for 3-4 weeks before I decide to quit. You could just imagine having to do everything from scratch to quit smoking but this time I used no nicotine replacements, just used auto-suggestion by reading articles, posts and books (I recommend – The Easy Way to Stop Smoking) and quit cold turkey.
So please don’t ever ever try to fall for that just one cigarette trap after quitting. Trust me, if you do, it will taste awful, make you feel crazy, stupid and feel the guilt of lighting one, you would curse that action but unconsciously in your mind, the powerful addiction of nicotine will slowly drag you down.
Alcohol – Cigarettes’ Best Friend
If there is a relationship far beyond separation, it is alcohol and nicotine and every certified smoker knows this, unless you really don’t drink and appreciate the effects of alcohol. So my second relapse you would guess it, started during a party.
I had drank enough alcohol and most of my drinking buddies were smokers (I should have left the party earlier) so I slipped and grabbed my friend’s cigarette. Well even under the influence of alcohol, I could feel the effects of nicotine and I despise lighting that one cig. That’s how it started but it was a long process actually, before I became hooked. After the party, no withdrawal symptom was felt and everything was normal.
The bad thing after this incident is that I crave for cigarette every time I was drinking. It went on for this and soon enough even when I was not drinking I was craving for a cigarette. So I started smoking again and for the second time I was hooked.
After 3-4 weeks of smoking, for the third time I decided to quit smoking again. This time was more difficult because I have to quit occasional drinking at the same time.
My second relapse was triggered when I was in the influence of alcohol so I have avoid drinking to prevent smoking. After deciding to quit (for the third time), I started this blog and after 3 weeks of no smoking, again I could occasionally drink happily without craving for nicotine.
I have known ex-smokers who can be in the companion of smokers even when drinking and not be affected. But that is not my case, presently if I realize that I am surrounded by smokers I usually control my drinking to avoid any more relapse.
If you would analyze my story it’s not that difficult to quit. What matters most is the strength of your desire. Every smoker wishes to quit but wishing alone will get you nowhere.
To know more about strengthening your desire and learning to use auto-suggestions, I suggest you read Napoleon Hill’s “The Law of Success,” it’s not expensive and it may only cost 3 packs of cigarettes. But the things you will learn is awesome, not only about quitting smoking but improving one’s life in general.
But to be simple and short about using auto-suggestion, commit and say to yourself you are no longer a smoker, write it, write all the good things you will get when you quit, visualize yourself a non-smoker. Read what you wrote each day, morning and evening. Hold in your mind that you are a non-smoker and soon enough everything will materialize.
If you have not yet made the decision to quit, now is the time, quit now, you have nothing to lose but so much to gain. If you have already quit, please avoid slipping like I did and always strive to be a happy non-smoker and if you haven’t done yet, subscribe to our feed above.